And with that, let's look at 35 beautifully romantic and unique ways to say 'I love you.” You can go old school and write them as a note, be new age and text them, .
The feeling of falling in love with someone can be scary, but actually saying “I love you” for the first time can be even more terrifying. After all, should a certain amount of time go by before you say it? Should it be when you're alone together? When you're having a romantic night? When you're having fun together so you can keep it casual? According to some relationship experts, there is no “wrong” way or moment to say it.
“There is no perfect time or place,” Toni Coleman, a relationship coach and divorce mediator, tells Bustle. “The right time won’t happen because your partner is in a good mood or you are enjoying something special together. It will be the right time because you are both feeling something special for the other, and your connection is undeniable.” She says that, usually, that first "I love you" just happens, often when people least expect it.
David Bennett, counselor and relationship expert with Double Trust Dating, says that saying “I love you” can be scary. “So many emotional factors go into saying it,” he tells Bustle. “It requires vulnerability and also courage, because you have to take the risk to say it when there is a possibility the other person may not respond in kind. I believe it’s worth the risk, because falling in love — and expressing it to that person you fell for — is one of the most amazing things a person can experience.”
Below, women reveal what it was like when they first said “I love you.” So if you want some saying-“I-love-you” inspo, look no further.
“My boyfriend and I had been dating for five months and we were on his family’s annual vacation to the Outer Banks when we finally said it. He’s the first guy I’ve dated that I’ve fallen in love with, and even though I’m not a romantic person, I figured a beach setting would make the moment extra special. So when the night that happened to be our five-month anniversary rolled around, we were all going out for dinner — I dressed in his favorite outfit and made sure to put some extra effort into my hair and makeup. Problem was, after dinner, he refused to go for a walk on the beach because he was tired and it would make the walk back to the house longer.
We went back to the house and I tried to wait around as long as I could for a ‘moment,’ but it never came. I ended up saying it first, hours later while in my PJs and no makeup on our room’s porch that overlooked a dimly lit playground and tennis court. Turns out, he had been waiting for me to say it first, and I had been waiting for him, but I guess I cracked first.”
“When I was 26, I was lying in bed when my then-boyfriend/now husband was falling asleep and I said it quickly, then turned to my side so he could pretend he was sleeping if he wasn’t ready to hear it. I was so nervous. It turned out, he did hear me, but pretended he was sleeping. He told me he loved me a few weeks after and admitted he was nervous to say it back to me that night.”
“I had said those three little words to an ex, but to a guy. Saying it to a woman was the real deal for me and happened last year. Luckily, I didn’t scare her off and we’re still together. I had planned to tell her during this romantic dinner I was making her, but then it slipped out a few days before that. We were just taking a walk through a big local park. Winter had just ended, so the sun was out and she just looked so beautiful as she walked and talked and I couldn’t concentrate. We stopped to sit under a tree, but before that, we leaned against it, though I was leaning more against her than the tree. As I held her, I just whispered it, and she said it back (thankfully!).”
“Dave didn’t fit the image of navy suit-wearing, Washington, D.C. attorney husband I had imagined my whole life. But shortly after meeting him, I realized how flimsy our predictions for our lives can be and how this man with a thick Boston accent was the only person I ever wanted to be with. I remember, a few months after our first date, I looked over at him as he joked and laughed with our group of friends. I was nearly bursting with so much joy and pride that I ran up to him and said ‘I love you!’ in a not very private or quiet way. Fortunately, he said it back (although, I was probably much louder). I was 24 then and it felt freeing and so real — I felt really present.”
“My boyfriend, Mike, and I had been dating for about six months when I first told him I loved him (I was 21 at the time). We were a pretty standard couple except for the fact that he lived in England and I lived in Alabama. We planned to spend New Year’s Eve together and even planned a big trip to New Orleans. We put so much effort into planning our New Year trip. I knew I wanted to tell him I loved him at midnight as we watched the gumbo pot drop over fireworks on the river. I had how I was going to say it all planned out in my head.
A few days before we were to travel down to New Orleans, we were just hanging out on my bed and I distinctly remember almost saying it right then and there. I remember telling myself. ‘Well, if you feel that way, he should know! Now!’ So, I ended up telling him before we even got to New Orleans. After I said it, he, fortunately, reciprocated the phrase and then told me that he had built a whole plan around saying ‘I love you’ to me in New Orleans on New Year’s Eve at midnight as we watched the gumbo pot drop over fireworks on the river."
“I’ve only ever said it to one person in the true, romantic sense. I was 24 and we had been together for a few months. I was used to seeing him at least once every few days, but then he had to travel for work and was away for a solid week-and-a-half. I missed him so so much that it hurt, and that was when I realized that I was feeling something that I’d never felt before.
His roommates were having a house party the night he returned, and I showed up in the midst of it. I felt so excited to tell him, but didn’t want to blurt it out randomly, so I waited until a little later in the night when we had some privacy in his room. I told him that I had to tell him something and he said he had something to tell me, too. We agreed to say whatever we needed to say at the same time, and both ended up saying, ‘I love you.’ It felt so awesome to say and we were both super giddy the rest of the night. It’s so true what they say, distance makes the heart grow fonder! I guess being away from each other made us both realize the same thing.”
“Earlier this year, my boyfriend and I said, ‘I love you’ pretty early on, about three months in (some things, you just know), but I kind of baited him to say it first because I was too scared. I thought he’d think I was crazy or rushing things. But he did tell me and once we’d both said it I sobbed like a baby. Pretty uncharacteristic of me, too, since I can be described, even by friends, as ‘cold-hearted.’”
“I am a true lover of LOVE, especially the giving part (because it is almost always returned)! After my divorce (following a 22-year marriage to my college sweetheart) and a few months of dating a couple of guys, I met my ‘him’ at the funeral of a mutual friend’s mom in November 2015. From our first conversation that went into the wee hours of the night and our first date (and subsequent ones) to making plans to spend NYE together and travel the world together (so far, we’ve been to China, Jamaica, Mexico, and across the U.S.) to him having my back spiritually, financially, and emotionally, I knew he had me. I was the first to say ‘I Iove you’ via text and it was returned. I was 46 then.
Many women are nervous about putting their feelings out there and laying their hearts on the line for fear of being hurt or the feelings not being mutual. For me, saying ‘I love you’ was liberating and genuine. I was just a wee bit nervous/hesitant; but, love will make you take that leap. And, two-plus years later, we’re still planning to conquer the world ... together!”
“I’m sexually fluid and have loved both men and women, even though I didn’t always tell them; other times, I said it and knew I didn’t really mean it. With my first love, though, it just came out when we were watching a movie together at her house. We’d both just turned 16 and started out as friends, so when I told her I loved her, it was easy since I already loved everything about her. We became even more inseparable until we went off to different colleges and I still aspire to find that same kind of love again.”
“I just said it for the first time and it was scary. But I could tell my boyfriend (who was not yet my boyfriend a few weeks ago when I said it!) loved me, too — all his actions pointed at ‘I love you.’” It turns out that he’d never said it either and was relieved that I did first. He said it back about a million times after I did it. And it wasn’t a scene out of a movie — it was while we were playing video games and eating pizza.”
“When I first said I love you to someone I truly loved, when I was 18, it was like ascending a roller coaster — butterflies swarming my stomach and the rare chance of failure consuming my thoughts. And then the drop. The heart lunges to the throat. Eyes widen. I awaited the response like going through the first loop. I felt upside down. But then, as gentle as the roller coaster pulling into the loading dock, he said it back. And it was a magical ride.”
As you can see, everyone says “I love you” in different ways, and it may just happen spontaneously, not necessarily planned out. Truth be told, it doesn’t matter how it’s said, but that it’s said and, more so, that it’s shown in people’s actions. So if you have yet to say it, what are you waiting for?
This article was originally published on May 7, 2018 and was updated on September 6, 2019.
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Don’t let “I love you” turn into just an everyday phrase. Through thoughtful words or actions, you can put a little extra meaning behind “I love you” and show someone how much you care. Sometimes, it just takes a little extra thought or creativity to make a difference in someones day. You never know how much they might need an extra boost of love!
1. Leave a love note around the house for them
2. Make heart shaped food (cinnamon rolls, pancakes)
3. Get them a small gift they have been wanting just because
4. Text them in the middle of the day just to say I love you
5. Find a picture from when you first dated and write “I’ve loved you for ___ days on the back”
6. Write a note for them on the shower wall from the steam
7. Do one of their chores for them (take out the trash, unload the dishwasher)
8. Leave fun sticky notes around the house for them (milk, toothbrush, etc)
9. Write with lipstick on the bathroom mirror
10. Make their favorite dinner
11. Make a DIY “I love you because…” frame – there a ton of them floating around Pinterest
12. Visit a memorable place from your relationship. Go back to where you kissed for the first time, or proposed, etc.
13. Set an alarm in their phone that will go off in the middle of the day with special words
14. Make a playlist of “your songs” and leave it in their car
15. Compliment them, often.
16. After work scavenger hunt – Start at the front door and leave them notes and hints around the house that lead to you.
17. Hold hands while watching a movie, or walking through a parking lot
18. Recreate your first movie night together
19. Give them a massage after a long day
20. Just say it, “I love you” everyday
Love is in the air!
Yell it loud and proud!
Express it with romantic phrases!
Isn’t love wonderful?
Maybe you’re planning to drop the L-bomb to a beloved who speaks Japanese. Or perhaps you simply want to broaden your vocabulary just in case you do find that special someone in Japan.
Whatever your reason, expressing love in Japanese is an important language and cultural milestone.
That’s why we’ve put together this list of ways to say “I love you” in Japanese!
But first, let’s look at some differences between expressing love in the West and in Japan.
Before you start proclaiming your love left and right, it’s important to understand certain cultural norms in Japan when it comes to love and expressing affection.
In the West, especially the United States, it’s very easy to throw around the term “I love you” or “I like you” every which way.
We tell our friends we love them.
We tell our romantic partners and spouses we love them.
We tell our family members we love them.
While there’s still some touchiness about when to say those three little words in a relationship, Westerners express love and affection fairly easily.
This is a little different in Japan. Many married couples will probably tell you that they’ve never been told “I love you” by their partner.
This isn’t to say Japanese people are cold and unloving. Quite the contrary: Japanese couples merely use the “show, don’t tell” rule. Married or dating couples in Japan opt to show their partners love through acts of service and loyalty rather than just telling them.
You’ll find that younger Japanese people say “I love you” more often than married couples.
In general, it’s rare to use such an expression among friends and family. That’s just the way things are. Language is interesting, isn’t it?
That being said, there are indeed several ways to express love and romantic interest in Japanese. It’s just a matter of using the right words for the right situation.
Lucky for you, we have 11 great ways for you to say “I love you” in Japanese.
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It’s worth noting that there are pretty much only two ways to say “I love you” in Japanese:
愛してる (あいしてる ) — “I love you,” pronounced “aishiteru”
大好き (だいすき ) — “I love…,” pronounced “dai suki”
It’s the combination of those words with levels of formality, other words in the sentence and the overall context that change the meaning.
In our list, we’ll highlight the right words to use for different circumstances.
To hear the pronunciation of each phrase in Google Translate or Forvo, simply click on the phrase!
This term is rarely used in Japan. The way it’s worded, it almost sounds like a “final” goodbye.
Still, it’s good to know different ways of saying “I love you,” even if you don’t use them.
This phrase is best used for someone you’re dating, notably during that “honeymoon” phase of being in a relationship. It’d be really strange if you said this to someone you’re not seriously involved with.
You may hear あなたに夢中です being used in Japanese dramas between two people who are desperate to confess their love to each other, but it really isn’t all that common of a phrase in real life.
To non-native speakers, saying “I really like you” might sound like a love confession, but its meaning is closer to “I really enjoy being with you.”
Use this term when you’re interested in someone and would like to date them. It’s the safer way to ask, without scaring them away with words like “love.”
Note: Don’t say this to friends! Even if we may say “I really like you” to platonic friends in the West, this isn’t the case in Japan.
This one is obviously very similar to 大好きだよ and the meaning is indeed about the same: that you really like someone.
The wording, though, is a bit less intense. If you’re a shy person, try using this phrase instead.
Ah, Osakan Japanese. It’s such a fun dialect!
This is the Osakan and slang way to say 大好きだよ but with a bit more of a goofy, fun-loving vibe. If you’re digging an Osakan person, use this term to tell them.
This phrase is used to talk about objects we love, whether it’s food, games, sports, art, music or whatever.
There’ll definitely be a time where you’ll need to express how much you adore sushi while abroad in Japan.
Simply precede this phrase with the subject of your love.
焼き鳥、大好き！(やきとり、だいすき！) — I love chicken skewers!
Note: が (ga) or は (wa) may be used between 焼き鳥 and 大好き as a particle or subject indicator. But in colloquial Japanese, particles are often dropped.
This more formal way of saying “I really like you” leans more towards love. While the previous iterations dropped the pronouns, including 私は and あなたが makes this sound more formal and “proper,” raising the level of intensity.
Because of its level of formality, this isn’t appropriate to use until you’re seriously romantically involved with someone. Use this sentence when you’re in love with someone and want them to know.
This is a playful way of asking someone if they like you. 僕 (ぼく) is mostly used by males and 私 (わたし) by females, so the form depends on the person who’s speaking.
The phrasing here is more childlike and playful, and it can be perceived in a few different ways depending on the situation: It might be a child asking if you love them, someone has a crush on you and wants to know if you like them back or someone you’ve been dating playfully picking on you.
This a big one.
Only use this expression if you’re already seriously involved with someone or married to them. And even then, don’t use it too often.
愛してる (あいしてる) is a colloquial expression for 愛している (あいしている).
Use this phrase if you’ve had some difficulty in your relationship and want to let your partner know you’re still on their team.
This is the ultimate one, guys.
Naturally, only ever use this phrase when you’re actually proposing to someone.
By the way, it may be worth noting that proposing in Japan is no different than proposing in America. Get a ring and some flowers and get on that knee!
We bet these 11 ways to say “I love you” in Japanese will prove useful for you in the future. And now you’ll be able to avoid a serious 失言 (しつげん) — faux pas by using an inappropriate expression for the situation!
Emily Casalena is a published author, freelance writer and music columnist. She writes about a lot of stuff, from music to films to language.
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When it comes to writing love notes, brevity is everything. Although it seems like a piece of cake at first, rhyming words to say how much you.
Expressing your love by saying “I love you” to someone else feels wonderful. Receiving the message feels almost intoxicating. Following up your words with actions is even better. I have previously written a blog about saying “I love you” and asked how often it is o.k. for people to utter those 3 words. Last night I was thinking more about exactly how to express them.
My dad always taught me that you can’t say “I love you” often enough. You never know what tomorrow will bring and you don’t want these words left unsaid, ever. How you say them to someone can make an even bigger impact on the person who hears it. It carries a different feeling when you say the “I” in the statement “I love you”.
When you choose to say all 3 of these words together it is a stronger message. If you put a person’s name after the word “love” it is also more touching. My cousin just wrote “love you Lori” on my Facebook page yesterday. Whoa! It was like cupid’s arrow struck me. We hadn’t spoken in years but just adding my name to this note and saying “love you Lori” sent me back in time to when we were children and she was like a big sister to me. The message was deeply felt. I replied with “I love you”. I am so grateful and moved by her note. I hope she felt cupid’s arrow returned right back to her.
Next time you express your love to someone try this out. Try saying the full “I love you” without leaving out the “I” and see how it feels. If you say I love you in a more powerful way, just imagine how meaningful it will be to the other person. You may just make their day. Wouldn’t that be beautiful?
Sample letters to i love you more than words can say.