I hope our samples of sympathy messages for loss of father can help you express your deepest sympathy to the family at loss. One of the most distressing times.
Last year I wrote an article entitled How to Write a Sympathy Card. I received feedback that it was helpful, so I decided to put together this bigger version for you, full of lots more helpful tips and advice. Why not bookmark it, so you can refer back to it when required? Read through our guide and learn how best to convey your condolences to friends, family and acquaintances when they lose a loved one. You can express your sympathy via many methods, but nothing is held as close as a handwritten sympathy card during and after periods of grief.
First things first, who should you address the card to? This is a common question in this situation, so here is a simple guide. If you knew the deceased well, address your note to the closest living relative – usually the wife/husband, or eldest child. If you didn’t know the deceased but your friend or relative was a close friend or close relative of the deceased, write to them. If a friend’s parent has passed away, write to your friend. You can always add an “and family” onto the end of your greeting, if you wish.
Address the envelope formally, with titles and full names, using the classic rules.
The below are some short, generic messages that convey your sympathy. If you’d like to keep your message concise, these phrases are ideal, or they can be combined, or added in with more personalised messages, quotes, or biblical references to write a longer piece. Whilst a short message is fine, remember that just “Dear Brian, with love from Lucy” is not enough, and comes across as nonchalant.
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Nobody ever expects their child to pass away before them, but sadly it does happen. Knowing what to say in this situation can seem impossible. Here are a few ideas for you:
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The passing away of a pet can often by overlooked by others, when it is often a harrowing time for the owners. Be prepared next time a beloved pet dies, with a message along these lines:
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Sometimes you might want to let someone else do the talking for you, or to enhance what you have already written by adding a suitable quote. Here are some useful examples:
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If you or the card recipient are Christian, then perhaps a biblical verse could provide some comfort. The same, of course, goes for other religions. Here are some suitable examples from the bible:
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When personalising the card to your situation, remember to:
The reason most of us struggle to write sympathy cards is, we are terrified of writing something that could further upset, offend or anger the recipient. You also need to avoid belittling any feelings they are having. With all of this in mind, keep these phrases and topics out of your writing:
In summary, don’t allocate blame, don’t discuss the circumstances of the death, don’t offer advice, and don’t tell them they will feel better in X amount of time. Put yourself in their shoes, and think about the words which would bring you comfort at such a time, and which words wouldn’t.
Here are a couple of examples, to give you a feel for the kind of thing you can write in your own cards:
I am so sorry for your loss. Steven was a wonderful man, with a heart of gold, and I will miss him dearly. His laugh was infectious, and I’ll never forget our camping trips in France. He often spoke of your achievements during our games of golf – a true sign of a proud parent. You meant the world to him, and I know the feeling was very much mutual. Please know that you are in my thoughts at this difficult time, and I would be more than happy to look after Milo and Maude for you if you would like some time out. They are welcome to stay over at my house anytime.
Sending you and the family all my love.
I am deeply sorry to hear about the passing of Jennie. To me she always seemed to be a whirlwind of fun and laughter, and I couldn’t help but feel uplifted in her presence. I know what a support she was to you over the years too, especially during sixth form, when you were inseparable and sneaking out late to go to parties.
“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years” – Abraham Lincoln
If you’d like some help with washing and ironing during this difficult time, please let me know. I can collect and drop it off again, so you can concentrate on looking after yourself.
Thinking of you,
Love from Louise”
” My dear friend Fran,
I was shocked and saddened to hear about Jamie’s death. I cannot imagine the heartache you must feel. Words seem so inadequate to express my sadness. He was a wonderful young man, so kind and thoughtful, and I know he will be deeply missed by many. If I can help with meals, just let me know – I can cook you and the family some meals and drop them off, or I can come round to your house and cook. Whichever you would prefer.
Remembering with you, the life of your precious son.
Lots of love,
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Whilst it is lovely of you to send a sympathy card to someone who has recently been bereaved, it is also nice to follow up your card with further contact – whether that be in person, by telephone, email, or a letter. It is also a nice idea to get in touch on the anniversary of their loved one’s death, to let them know you are thinking of them. Offer support and any practical help they might still need, and also let them know that it is perfectly OK for them to still be feeling sad.
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Please accept my/our heartfelt condolences, words cannot begin to express the . immense void left behind by the loss of their beloved father / mother/ brother.
“O LORD, you hear the desire of the afflicted; you will strengthen their heart; you will incline your ear.” Psalm 10:17
“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1 “From the end of the earth I call to you when my heart is faint. Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” Psalm 61:2
“When the cares of my heart are many, your consolations cheer my soul.” Psalm 94:19
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.” Isaiah 43:2
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4
“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:2
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Phillipians 4:7
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” Corinthians 1:3–4
We hope that these sample sympathy letters will make it easier for you to write and express your condolences when a tragedy happens and a friend or relative or yours loses a parent, whether it be a mother or a father. The first four of these are actual letters sent to my daughter when my husband died. We'd like to thank those who sent them, they were of enormous comfort. We have changed names and places for privacy reasons.
The images on this page are Sympathy Cards which we created specially from our own photographs. All the cards are customisable, so you can add your letter and send direct to your friend or relative. Sales help us to continue our work in helping the grieving on this site. Click on the cards to find out more.
Or see the complete range of Sympathy Cards here.
Thank you so much for your call last night. I am devastated for you and Tom, your Mum, Martin, the grand kids and the countless people who your Dad made friends with over the years. I have been thinking of you all day today and have found myself telling countless people at work about how sad I am for you and how sudden this has all been.
If things were different I would love to be able to jump on the next flight to hold your hand and give you a hug. I will be with you in thoughts over the weeks to come and send you all my love. Xxxx
Why not add a link to this site to your sympathy letter - it will be a comforting resource for your friend or loved one in their grief?
I am so sorry to read your devastating news. I never met your Dad, but know how wonderful and supportive he was to you over the years and can only start to imagine what you are feeling now.
You will gradually find comfort in all the happy memories. Your parents found their new life in Australia and lived the last years of his life in contentment there, surrounded by family.
Your dad lived to see you find happiness and security and love. He will have died content for knowing that. AND best of all he did not suffer a long illness.
Make sure you find time to grieve and allow yourself to do so - and don't expect it to pass quickly. Losing a parent takes time to process for us mortals. Do you remember I was in the aftermath of losing my dad when we first became close? I didn't fully recover from that for at least two years - and made some very strange decisions and acted out of character for much of that time.
I wish I could be with you to try to help somehow. I'm giving you a big hug now from halfway across the globe.
Sending love to you and all your family.
Take care and hang on in there.
So sorry to hear the sad news. I know exactly how you must be feeling right now having lost my dad two years ago. Please send our sympathy to your mum, brother and all your loved ones. It is a help that your Dad didn't suffer but such a terrible shock that will take forever to heal. As you say your Dad had a wonderful life and you can celebrate that luckily you are managing to feel that way. I also believe you should celebrate the life lived and not the sorrow of death.
Here is a poem that helped me a lot, I hope it does the same for you...
PS Anytime you feel like it , just go on chat and pour your heart out. I'll always be there.
Such sad news and it must have been a very difficult e-mail for you to write. We're really thinking of you all and especially your Mum and Tim. I'm sure that John and Mary must have adored their Grandpa and it will be hard for all of you to adjust to life without Charlie around. We always think of him as larger-than-life and such a warm, generous, funny and lovely friend to us. It is really hard to think that we won’t see him again.
I won't say more, the last thing you need is an e-mail of information to take in.
We're really thinking of you, Linda, so please contact us whenever you wish. You'll hear from us soon.
With lots of love
The news we received this morning about the loss of your wonderful mother, although expected, made us feel very sad. It was a privilege to call her a friend. She always had such great stories to tell, many exciting episodes, during her long life.
Her positive attitude despite her failing health made every visit a pleasure. There is never anyone quite like a Mum, despite her living for over 90 years, your loss must be very difficult. Our family want to say you are all in our thoughts at this difficult time.
With best wishes
Our deepest condolences are sent to you in this note. What a terrible shock for you and the rest of your family. Your Dad was a lovely man and even though I only met him the once I can remember his warmth and openness. Such a sad time for you. If I can do anything to help please let me know. Thinking of you, if you want to chat you have my number.
Lots of love and a big hug
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Writing a sympathy card is often an emotional and intimidating experience. It can be challenging to find the right words to offer support, comfort, and empathy. We know how important it is to lend a piece of your heart and pay your respects, while being thoughtful, mindful, and open with your condolences.
Here are 40 meaningful messages to inspire an intimate, heartfelt offering of sympathy and compassion. Consider them starters to help your personal note flow. They may inspire you or you can use them as guidelines, but remember the most thoughtful messages come from the heart.
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